Graduating From Guilt

Six Steps to Overcome Guilt and Reclaim Your Life

By Holly Eckert

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A guide to quieting the inner critic and achieving overall well-being.
Through a simple, step-by-step progression, this handbook provides individuals with the means to learn how to quiet their inner critic and to experience forgiveness, self-acceptance, and empowerment. Employing a methodology rooted in the principles of nonviolent communication, the process lays out a path for achieving freedom from toxic and emotionally draining guilt, blame, and shame. Examples of real-world situations enable individuals to visualize how they, like others, can forgive themselves for past mistakes and successfully mend broken relationships.


Cover endorsements:

“A crystal clear, step-by-step process with stories that are rich and alive!”
—MIRIAM DYAK, cofounder, The Voice Dialogue Institute

“Graduating From Guilt brings a beautiful level of sensitivity and clarity to the tangled difficulties of guilt and internal conflict. Rich with examples, anyone wanting guidance and clarity about self-empathy will benefit from these pages.”
—WES TAYLOR, hospital administrator

“A remarkable resource—easily understood, readily usable, and highly effective. I look forward to introducing this process to my clients.”
—PAMELA GRACE, DAPA, psychotherapist

Interior endorsements:

“With clear, engaging writing, this short but compelling book lives up to its title, offering six steps to ‘graduate’ from feelings of guilt and regret. The ideas are general enough to be useful in any situation, with interesting, specific examples and stories to help bring it all home. I highly recommend this profoundly important book and plan to use it often in my counseling practice.”
—JAN HUNT, MSc., parenting counselor and author of The Natural Child: Parenting From the Heart

“Many people think of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as solely a communication tool when it is actually a vehicle for deep inner transformation. If your relationship with yourself isn’t loving and connected, or if you are at war with yourself, then all of your relationships will suffer. Holly Eckert understands this, and her book is a wonderful and systematic teaching on how NVC can be used to transform inner consciousness. I will definitely be recommending this book to my therapy clients and students and know they will benefit from its wisdom and practical examples.”
—MARK J. GOODMAN, MA, mindfulness-based psychotherapist, faculty member at the Leadership Institute of Seattle (LIOS) Graduate College of Saybrook University, training future psychotherapist, business coaches and consultants

“Reading about guilt may not sound like a fascinating and hopeful subject, but Holly makes it so. In this straightforward and yet profound volume, you will be surprised with both the simplicity and profundity of her methodology. Highly recommended for those who want to learn to live more lightly and hopefully in all relationships.”
—JUDITH HANSON LASATER, PhD, PT, yoga teacher since 1971 and coauthor (with Ike K. Lasater) of What We Say Matters: Practicing Nonviolent Communication

“Graduating From Guilt offers a clear pathway for letting go of any old programming around guilt. If there is anything in your world where you are feeling stuck, I invite you to allow this process to contribute to your wholeness and well-being now.”
—SANDY FOX, founder, Seattle Center For Peace

“Graduating From Guilt offers a simple six-step process for overcoming guilt gently, easily, and effectively. Eckert’s approach is clear and direct, insightful and creative, warm as a summer breeze, and yet powerful enough to move mountains of painful emotion. If you’re looking for a book to help free your heart, Graduating From Guilt is a great choice!”
—CAT SAUNDERS, PhD, author of Dr. Cat’s Helping Handbook: A Compassionate Guide for Being Human

“Graduating From Guilt is a wise, unique, and beautifully written guidebook for those who want to release the quagmire their guilt leaves them in. Holly’s Six Steps to Overcome Guilt are simple, practical, and yet profoundly life changing.”
—MARY MACKENZIE, international peacemaker, author of Peaceful Living, and cofounder of the NVC Academy

“I find this book marvelously clear and accessible, and recommend it widely. I appreciate the diversity of situations represented, and imagine readers feeling immediately encouraged and confident in walking their own situation through the clearly delineated process. This is a great contribution, Holly, and I thank you for the care you have taken to offer your teaching and experience in a form that will benefit so many of us.”
—LUCY LEU, cofounder, Freedom Project and Freedom Project Canada, and coauthor, Nonviolent Communication Toolkit for Facilitators

“What I love about this book is that it’s so practical! NVC is a lot easier to understand than it is to do, but Holly offers a crystal clear, step-by-step process that really is easy to follow. The stories are rich and alive and open up a whole range of ideas of how and when to use her Graduating From Guilt process.”
—MIRIAM DYAK, cofounder, The Voice Dialogue Institute

NVC Guilt Web Resources

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There is a wealth of information on Nonviolent Communication – in articles and videos. Of course we endorse all of Marshall’s sharing’s, however, there are many transcripts and videos created by others. Due to limited resources we do not verify the full accuracy of any particular video or articles created by others, even though there is plenty of wonderful and educational information on the web.