The Heart of Nonviolent Communication

25 Keys to Shift From Separation to Connection.

By Stephanie Bachmann Mattei and Kristin K. Collier

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Do you want to express yourself honestly and compassionately? Learn to live in choice rather than submit or rebel? This book explores 25 key distinctions that reveal the consciousness embedded in Nonviolent Communication. Drawing on brain science with awareness of systemic conditioning, each chapter presents examples from around the world alongside practices that will move you toward the spirit of true connection.

Endorsements

Cover endorsements:

“I recommend this book to anyone who chooses to grow and learn and wishes to be free.”
—FLORENCE MELEO-MEYER, Assistant Professor of the Practice, program director, Global Relations and Professional Education Mindfulness Center, Brown University School of Public Health

“The wisdom contained in this book is to be lived and embodied by every Nonviolent Communication and mindfulness teacher.”
—ALLAN GOLDSTEIN, UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness, Professional Training Institute cofounder, MBSR teacher development and mentorship

“Masterfully written. . . . An essential tool for an embodied and relational Science of Connection.”
—MUKARA MEREDITH, MSW, CHT, author of MatrixWorks: A Life-Affirming Guide to Facilitation Mastery and Group Genius

Interior Endorsements:

“Brilliant! This book is a major contribution to the literature on consciousness and social change. Especially in this era of increasing polarization, this book is an indispensable roadmap for returning to connection and wholeness.”
—CHRISTOPHER K. GERMER, PHD, lecturer on psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, and author, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion

“Studying, practicing, and engaging with the deep learning available within this book can support unbinding from early limiting conditioning and finding some degree of choice. . . . I recommend this book to anyone who chooses to grow and learn and wishes to be free.”
—FLORENCE MELEO-MEYER, Assistant Professor of the Practice, program director, Global Relations and Professional Education Mindfulness Center, Brown University School of Public Health

“The authors bring us into connection with their heartfelt love, insights, and wisdom drawn from their deep experience with Nonviolent Communication and present us with this gift. The wisdom contained in this book is to be lived with by every NVC and mindfulness teacher.”
—ALLAN GOLDSTEIN, UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness, Professional Training Institute cofounder, MBSR teacher development and mentorship

“The Heart of Nonviolent Communication is masterfully written. . . . An essential tool for an embodied and relational Science of Connection. I will use this work in my teachings of Hakomi, MatrixWorks, and Soul-Force Leadership.”
—MUKARA MEREDITH, MSW, CHT, author of MatrixWorks:
A Life-Affirming Guide to Facilitation Mastery and Group Genius

“Focusing on needs as the lens, the authors bring attention to multiple complex and challenging themes. . . . The authors make the distinction between power-with and power-over as a key to learning to use power—personal, role, and status—wisely and well.”
—CEDAR BARSTOW, Certified Hakomi Trainer and Therapist, Doctor of Psychosocial Intervention, founder and director of the Right Use of Power Institute

“This beautiful, in-depth, comprehensive elaboration of Marshall Rosenberg’s work takes us far beyond NVC as a set of communication skills and illuminates its power to transform consciousness at a personal, institutional, and societal level. The book invites us and leads us toward the vision and the possibility of personal and collective liberation.”
—JANET SURREY, PHD, Insight Dialogue teacher, clinical psychologist and Founding Scholar of the Jean Baker Miller Institute at the Stone Center, Wellesley College

“This book carries an invitation to refine how I engage others and how I engage my own heart. . . . NVC is far more than a communication methodology. It rests on a philosophy of dignity and care that is expressed by how we speak and how we act.”
—GREGORY KRAMER, author of Insight Dialogue: The Interpersonal Path to Freedom and A Whole-Life Path: A Lay Buddhist’s Guide to Crafting a Dhamma-Infused Life

“This is an important read for our day. . . . In a world that can feel contentious on a good day, we are led to bring out the best of who we are through both story and practice. . . . If you believe in a growth mindset for your life, I encourage you to read this book.”
—ERIC DULL, pastor, United Lutheran Church

“A deep dive to explore the consciousness of Nonviolent Communication, providing invaluable insights for seasoned practitioners as well as new learners. Stephanie and Kristin carefully frame the connection between the spiritual basis of NVC highlighted by Marshall Rosenberg and the impact for social change so central to his vision of NVC in the world. I imagine Marshall’s joy to read this book and to know that new generations continue to grow and deepen the gifts he has offered us.”
—LUCY LEU, author of Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook and coauthor of Nonviolent Communication Toolkit for Facilitators

“I don’t know of any other resource that explores these fundamental aspects of Nonviolent Communication in such a thorough and accessible manner. . . . I’m excited to recommend this book to both students and fellow trainers of Nonviolent Communication alike. We can all learn from the nuanced understanding they bring to Marshall Rosenberg’s radical vision of personal and social transformation through the practical spirituality of Nonviolent Communication.”
—OREN JAY SOFER, CNVC certified trainer and author of Say What You Mean

“The Heart of Nonviolent Communication is a pivotal body of work. . . . By engaging with power differences, privilege, and patriarchy as both concepts but also realities we live with, the book brings NVC to the most significant questions of our times. The inclusion of voices of NVC practitioners from all over the world demonstrates how the process evolves beyond its original context and stays deeply, profoundly relevant.”
—MANASI SAXENA, CNVC certified trainer and CNVC board member; founder, enCOMPASSion

“The authors illuminate key distinctions foundational not only to the practice of NVC, but also to enhanced clarity and awareness of our intentions . . . , the choices we may make in life, and the impact of such choices on others.”
—PENNY WASSMAN, CNVC certified trainer and assessor

“The authors offer you a clear path toward developing relationships that are based on interdependence, wholeness, and power-with, and open the door to authenticity and compassion. Detailing the key distinctions of the NVC process reveals the true power that awaits you. Step in and revel in it!”
—MARY MACKENZIE, CNVC certified trainer; author, Peaceful Living; cofounder, NVC Academy

“I trust that those reading this work will come away with both an intellectual understanding of each key differentiation and a sense of inspiration on how to apply that understanding to their lives. I plan to recommend this book to each of my candidates for NVC certification.”
—ROXY MANNING, PHD, CNVC certified trainer and assessor, licensed clinical psychologist

“By deeply and expansively exploring the key distinctions, they provide us all with clarity and insight that will enhance our journey into the heart of nonviolence. The personal stories will inspire each of us to see how these important distinctions can be immediately applied in everyday life.”
—JIM MANSKE, CNVC certified trainer and assessor, author of Pathways to Nonviolent Communication

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There is a wealth of information on Nonviolent Communication – in articles and videos. Of course we endorse all of Marshall’s sharing’s, however, there are many transcripts and videos created by others. Due to limited resources we do not verify the full accuracy of any particular video or articles created by others, even though there is plenty of wonderful and educational information on the web.