Nonviolent Communication™ and Sexual Discrimination and Me Too

“An ultimate ideal or goal for gender advocacy is to awaken “critical consciousness” of the importance and power of gender in one’s life, of how it relates to and affects other identities, of how it interacts with the contextual and cultural issues, and how we can through advocacy transform the organizations, institutions, and communities which perpetuate violent and inequitable treatment of human beings.”

-(MKA)

More information on this topic coming soon. In the meantime, please enjoy this article from GoodTherapy.

Empowerment Through Anger: The Tools of Nonviolent Communication

In the United States, people who experience discrimination and oppression are often stereotyped as “angry.” For example, the stereotype of the “angry black woman” is reinforced in the popular media over and over again. The result of this stereotyping is the message that those who experience oppression and discrimination should not be angry. For people of color, ethnic minorities, religious minorities, sexual minorities, gender-variant people, and differently-abled communities, this message—to swallow your anger—can be frustrating and make people feel invisible. The invisibility of groups can happen when those individuals are not allowed to voice their own opinions and to share their truth with the world. The long-term impact of invisibility can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and anger-management issues.

Marshall B. Rosenberg, an educator who teaches nonviolent communication, suggests that anger should not be ignored, but instead can be turned into a useful tool to create personal and societal change. His experiences include working with oppressed communities and he states, “Such groups are uneasy when they hear the terms ‘nonviolent’ or ‘compassionate‘ communication because they have so often been urged to stifle their anger, calm down, and accept the status quo … The process we are describing, however, does not encourage us to ignore, squash, or swallow anger, but rather to express the core of our anger fully and wholeheartedly.” Using Rosenberg’s model, anger can be accessed and used in an intentional way and can be a powerful tool for people who experience discrimination or oppression.

Anger management is often addressed in therapy by using a cognitive-behavioral approach that focuses on interrupting the sequence of thoughts and events that lead to uncontrollable anger.

A nonviolent communication perspective to anger management adds an additional tool that can not only knock uncontrollable anger off track, but also redirect it to create positive change. This approach to anger teaches that:

  1. Anger is not bad.
  2. Anger is not something to be repressed.
  3. Anger does not mean something is wrong with us.

There are multiple steps to turn anger from something destructive to something constructive. The first place to start is to separate out the trigger of our anger from the cause of our anger and recognize them as two separate things. The trigger is the event that happened that makes a person angry. The cause, however, is usually something much deeper. It is the belief that we hold about the event that happened that makes us angry…

Please read the rest of this article here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/beyond-anger-mangement-to-nonviolent-communication/

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There is a wealth of information on Nonviolent Communication – in articles and videos. Of course we endorse all of Marshall’s sharing’s, however, there are many transcripts and videos created by others. Due to limited resources we do not verify the full accuracy of any particular video or articles created by others, even though there is plenty of wonderful and educational information on the web.