Nonviolent Communication™ and Gun Control

“Fantasists and zealots can be found on both sides of the debate over guns in America. Between these two extremes we must find grounds for a rational discussion about the problem of gun violence.”

Sam Harris

More information on this topic coming soon. In the meantime, please enjoy these three articles on the topic.

Stopping Gun Violence in the U.S. Starts With Us

By Psyched in San Francisco | Appeared in HuffPost

“Us vs. Them” is the poison this American culture is pumping out and ingesting on every level of our society and we are all ill from it. The longing to belong is wired into our cells, yet on multiple levels of our society we actively leave people out. By denying some citizens basic safety and care and actively persecuting others, we foster the cognitive openings for acting on impulsive violence. The easy access to guns makes this social sickness easy to act upon. Racism, discriminatory economics, unrepresentative politics, media violence and lack of empathy are the ingredients for this culture of violence that is now a national health epidemic.

Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Nonviolent Communication, believes that violence starts with what he calls “moralizing judgments” about oneself or others. These are beliefs that people “should be” a certain way and that there are absolute rights and wrongs. This perpetuates the “us” vs. “them” mentality and is at the root of an economic, political and social system that keeps leaving people out. We protect our self-worth by dehumanizing people that are different from us.

School Shootings Must STOP! The Answer is to Teach Compassion in Schools!

Genesis Young and Sulara James have created a petition to teach Non-Violent Communication in Schools which they believe will help stop violence and create a more peaceful society.

Over 2500 people are supporting this ground breaking petition. It is heartbreaking and gut wrenching to turn on the news and hear about yet another school shooting. It is unacceptable to have children killing each other in school or to have anyone resorting to gun violence in answer to their pain. There must be a change in the way people think and the way they approach each other. The creators of this petition believe that the answer is in educating youth in Non-Violent Communication from the earliest years through graduation from high school. They imagine that teaching compassion in the schools could completely change the community within a generation. If people first think of their own needs and the needs of others when conflict arises, there would be a common ground from which to solve problems. As Rumi said, there is a field beyond right and wrong, I’ll meet you there.

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Broadening the Conversation: Gun Violence, Masculinity, and Being Vulnerable

I was originally going to share with you a piece I’ve published here entitled the Skill of Love, about our beautiful capacity as humans to develop the qualities of care and good will. Given Valentines Day’s heart-rending school shooting, it would feel out of step to talk about love and not address the wider conversation about guns and violence—and masculinity.

So I write this post a day before it is published, just hours before leaving to teach a retreat. In these pages I share quite openly and personally. I am certain my thoughts might be more clear under different circumstances; please forgive any way in which they may be incomplete or unclear.

When there were no policy changes after the Sandy Hook murders, where 20 six- and seven-year olds and six adults were killed at the end of 2012, I felt angry, then worried, then numb. I thought, if elementary school students being mowed down can’t provoke sweeping changes, what will?

NVC Gun Control Web Resources

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There is a wealth of information on Nonviolent Communication – in articles and videos. Of course we endorse all of Marshall’s sharing’s, however, there are many transcripts and videos created by others. Due to limited resources we do not verify the full accuracy of any particular video or articles created by others, even though there is plenty of wonderful and educational information on the web.