In this fully revised second edition, Dr. Dian Killian and Dr. Jane Marantz Connor offer a comprehensive and accessible guide for exploring the concepts, applications, and transformative power of the Nonviolent Communication process. Discover simple, yet transformative skills to create a life of abundance, where building the personal, professional and community connections you long for begins with a simple shift in thinking.
Now with an expanded selection of broadly applicable exercises, roleplays, and activities that challenge readers to immediately apply the concepts in every day life, this new edition opens the authors' insight to an even broader audience. Detailed and comprehensive, this combined book and workbook enhances communication skills by introducing the basic NVC model, as well as more advanced NVC practices. Relevant, meaningful exercises follow each concept, giving readers the chance to immediately apply the skills they've learned to real life experiences.
This book gives special attention to:
Body-mind connection in the practice of NVC (connecting physical sensations with feelings and needs)
De-mystifying the practice of empathy by translating "root" words in judgments
The practice of reflection
Silent empathy and the "dance" between empathy, self-empathy and self-expression
Protective use of force
Looking beneath strategies to get clear about our needs
Giving life-serving feedback, compliments and gratitude
"Connecting Across Differences has changed how I approach my work and life. Using empathy to connect with my feelings and needs and with the feelings and needs of the people around me has made me happier and more effective. Jane and Dian, thank you for guiding me on this journey."
--ROBERT MCGUIRE, Executive Director, Merck, Inc.
"Dian Killian is remarkable woman with a great message that brings wisdom to the field of nonviolence."
--HOWARD GLASSER, author, Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach
"Connecting Across Differences capacitates learners with essential personal and interpersonal skills and knowledge needed to nurture and build a culture of peace. Killian and Connor's thoughtfully constructed guidebook opens doors to the possibility for authentic dialogue between self and others and illuminates multiple paths to living with integrity. This book should be on the shelf of every peacemaker."
--TONY JENKIS, Director of Education, National Peace Academy
"Having taught Nonviolent Communication for many years, it seems to me that this book covers every question that I have had myself or been asked about how to learn and integrate this simple yet challenging re-frame of communication with self and others. I am grateful to Dian and Jane for this contribution to the field of applied nonviolence."
--KIT MILLER, Director, M.K. Gandhi Institute For Nonviolence
In each chapter, numerous exercises invite readers to apply NVC skills and concepts in their own lives. The second part features extensive dialogues illustrating NVC in action including in self-empathy, empathy and mediation. The book closes with a resource guide for further learning and an interview with Marshall Rosenberg from the February 2003 Sun Magazine.