from Peaceful Living
by Mary Mackenzie
Each time you are honest and conduct yourself with honesty, a success force will drive you toward greater success. Each time you lie, even with a little white lie, there are strong forces pushing you toward failure.
–Joseph Sugarman
Day 321: Making Specific Requests
You’ve been in a relationship with your boyfriend for a year and you’re incredibly frustrated with your sex life. You’ve tried the usual vague requests, such as, “Honey, can we try expanding our lovemaking to a longer period of time?” He says, “Sure.” The next time you make love, the entire encounter lasts ten minutes instead of five minutes. Do you lose hope that your needs will ever be met?
There is a solution, although it’s not for the fainthearted. The solution is to be specific. What do you want, how long do you want it, and in what order? Can you make this request without thinking that he’s a rotten lover, or that he should know this already? Make your request because you want to enjoy your sex life with him, without judging him in the process.
These moments can be embarrassing at first, but when handled with compassion, they can enrich and strengthen your relationship, not to mention your sex life!
Make at least one specific request of someone today even if you feel embarrassed.
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