Clearly expressing how I am without blaming or criticizing
|
Empathically receiving how you are without hearing blame or criticism |
1. What I observe (see, hear, remember, imagine, free from my evaluations) that does or does not contribute to my well-being:
"When I (see, hear) . . . " |
1. What you observe (see, hear, remember, imagine, free from my evaluations) that does or does not contribute to your well-being:
"When you see/hear . . . "
(Sometimes dropped when
offering empathy) |
2. How I feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) in relation to what I observe:
"I feel . . . " |
2. How you feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) in relation to what you observe:
"You feel . . . " |
3. What I need or value (rather than a preference, or a specific action) that causes my feelings:
" . . . because I need/value. . . " |
3. What you need or value (rather than a preference, or a specific action) that causes your feelings:
" . . . because you need/value. . . " |
Clearly requesting that which
would enrich my life without
demanding |
Empathically receiving that which
would enrich your life without
hearing any demand
|
4. The concrete actions I would like taken:
"Would you be willing to . . . " |
4. The concrete actions you would like taken:
"Would you like to . . . "
(Sometimes dropped with
offering empathy) |
